Time to go public, I guess!

Hey!
Welcome to all you Lullabys fans out there!
It's a friday morning and I thought NOW is the time to start my blog.
It's gonna be filled with stuff about love, loss, hope, relationships, sex, death - all the beautiful and gloriously morbid stuff that go to make up this wonderful thing called life.

I don't need to hark on too much about the music. If you've seen our website (http://www.thelullabys.com/) you'll know what we're up to. Things are going bloody great right now. Me and Brett are fired up, motivated and focused and we're having a ball. That's what it's all about. It's no good being driven to do anything if you're not enjoying yourselves. We all need to have a dream but we must enjoy the journey and learn as much as we can along the way.

What are you learning right now, TODAY?

The album is done - at bloody last - and we're about to release a single/EP of Maybe Tonight. There'll be a video coming out soon too. My hair looks a right damn mess on it but too late now. Laugh if you want to; I don't care anymore. Maybe that's a sign of maturity - not caring what others think of me anymore. Maybe immaturity? I think we place far too much importance on how we come across to others. Guess we all wanna be liked/ approved of. Guess we all wanna be loved and know that we are loveable. That's the bottom line.
See, I knew I'd get onto that before long!

The Lullabys songs, as you know are all about love, loss and hope. And we've all been there - at least those of us who are brave enough to love in the first place. Then we get hurt and some of us never take the risk again.
Three years ago I passed Sue Ryder shop in Stowmarket (chav town - sorry guys but it's the truth - admit it!) and I saw a cheap acoustic guitar in the window. I bought it and have never looked back. I'd always been a bass man up til then, playing in various bands from 1990 to '98.
Then there was a lengthy hiatus until things started going wrong in my relationship. I needed an outlet. I still clearly remember the night when I sat in the bedroom and the chords and melody to 'Where Do We Go From Here?' just came to me. It seemed so easy to write. My girl at the time (bless her, wherever she is) was feeling it too. Things weren't right. The spark had gone. What started out as a soulmate relationship had withered away.
By 2007 it was all but over. We tried a trial 'get back together', during which time I wrote loads more stuff, namely, 'Maybe Tonight', highlighting the insecurities I felt at the time, 'Do You Still Love Me Baby?', 'A Wonderful Two Years' and 'Marooned'. I remember seeing James Blunt singing 'Goodbye My Lover' on TV and I cried my eyes out. I knew it was all over. It hurt so much because I'd put my heart and soul into it. She was 'the one'. I was living a fairytale existence. I don't believe in 'the one' anymore.
The week after the final break up (it had gone on all year, hence the soon-to-be-released albums title, 'The Long Goodbye') I walked into Oxfam bookshop in Bury St. Edmunds (non-chav town and simply 'Bury' to us locals) and right in front of me was a book entitled, 'Rebuilding When You're Relationship Ends'. It proved to be a life saver. Isn't it weird how these things happen? Synchronicity. I thus started a new journal. Writing things down proved enormously helpful. It's one thing I now encourage my clients to do. Ah yes, most of you don't know that I am a therapist. I try to keep my personal and professional lives seperate but in this blog I'm gonna attempt to merge the two together. I hate leading seperate lives! Find out more about what I do at http://www.stow-hypno.co.uk/ . Yes, I am a qualified Hypnotherapist and practice in Stowmarket (of all places). It's lovely really!
Just had a bit of a panic. That book I just mentioned has gone missing! I've just moved house and a whole box of 'relationship' books can't be traced! It had real personal stuff in it too! I know I didn't leave it behind. Where the f*** is it? You ok with swearing? Ok then, where the FUCK is it? It'll turn up somwehere.

I'm not gonna write anymore for now. People are too busy these days, wrapped up in their own lives to even wanna bother reading about someone else (unless they're dead famous - or both).
There'll be lots more to come over the next few months - or even years.
Share the journey with me.
Share your love, loss and hopes. We're all in it together!

Lullaby Gav