Hey!
I was going to write more about the power of intention and the law of attraction today but something else has come up.
A sense of foreboding has struck me a few times recently. And I'm coming to believe that this is simply a human trait; we all experience it and we all dread it. Indeed, we try our hardest to put it to the back of our minds, hoping that everything will be alright.
I went to see The Swell Season last week. Awesome band and Glen Hansard is one of the best songwriters ever (www.theswellseason.com) But there was a sense of foreboding in that I knew my Grandmother was close to the end of her life. I knew that, before long I would have to deal with all that goes with death. I tried to put it out of my mind.
The same goes for relationships. Something goes wrong; you get a sense that it's just not going to work even though you desperately want it to.
When I was in Spain in 2008 I was deeply in love but things had gone badly wrong and there was a 'sense of the inevitable'; I knew we would break up after the holiday. The sense of foreboding engulfed me and ruined what should have been one of the best experiences of my life.
And before that, during a 'lads' weekend in Amsterdam I came away feeling the most depressed I've ever felt. Sure, I had some 'fun' but it all felt very empty and meaningless. And I came to the conclusion that EVERYTHING IN LIFE IS JUST A DISTRACTION FROM OUR INEVITABLE DEMISE. We're all going to die. What's the point of living?
I was heavily into reading about existentialism - the things we all have to face in life such as anxiety, freedom, choices, responsibilities. I got too involved in pondering these BIG life issues.
Thankfully I changed my focus of attention otherwise the foreboding would certainly have led to a deep depression.
But the point I am trying to make here is that WE ALL EXPERIENCE THIS SENSE OF FOREBODING. It's inevitable. The key is how we deal with it and the attitude we adopt in which to do so. Do we internalise it and just keep quiet? Do we hope the problem will somehow solve itself or simply go away? This approach is what I tried for 40 years. It doesn't work!! The healthy way is to talk to someone, share it, get it out! Even it it might upset someone, even if you might both end up in tears. Face it, deal with it.
Glen Hansard talked about this at the gig. He said how extraordinary it was that we try to put things to the back of our heads but that the distance from there to our mouths was only a few inches. Get it out in the open then you can deal with it and move on. This is what inspired him to write the song, 'Say It To Me Now'. (watch the video here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pj59oIxKxos or this one http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=953g_ZZgGcs&feature=related - it'll blow your socks off!).
So, stop foreboding, say it NOW and deal with it! To not do so is to shy away from life itself.
Until next time...
Gav
Friday, 22 January 2010
Thursday, 21 January 2010
the Power of Intent
Hey!
we've all heard of the laws of manifestation, what with having been bombarded with books like 'The Secret' over the last few years.
But I really think there is something to this. However, there is one vital flaw, which I'll explain in a moment below.
When I announced the release date of the next Lullabys single (http://www.thelullabys.com/) I put the intention out there. Suddenly we had a goal to aim for. Then it was a case of putting the wheels in motion, taking action in other words. And just the other day, myself and Brett happened upon the most wonderful studio in which to record. Check it out here: http://www.monkeypuzzlehouse.com/
It's a beautiful place, set in the Suffolk countryside and has outstanding equipment. And we liked the guys too and are confident we can get some great recordings done.
So, recording starts on the first week in February.
I also had time to do some promo work for my hypnotherapy practice. It's really amazing how this works! Everytime I get really focused the law of manifestation seems to happen. I am in tune with the universe. So, there I was, putting out some business cards in the town and got talking to a bloke who said I could use his room FREE for conferences/workshops. He then told me of a woman who had just started up as a complimentary therapist and was looking for a hypnotherapist to join her! The law of attraction in operation again! I had the intent (get more business/clients), took action (took the cards/flyers out) and the universe rewarded me.
But now, the one caveat to this law of attraction. It's no good just thinking more positively and using positive affirmations. Many books over the years have suggested that we should stand in front of the mirror and speak positively to ourselves. This is all well and good but - and this is where the problem lies - if you have an unconcious part of you sabotaging your efforts no amount of positive thinking will overcome it! That's because the unconscious mind is far more powerful than your conscious. The way around it is to make friends with your sabateur!
So, if you consciously want to achieve things (such as lose weight, stop smoking) but can't manage it, no matter how hard you try, there may well be an unconscious sabateur thwarting your efforts.
More on this in the next post. For now, you can keep abreast of developments in The Lullabys by registering as a fan at the website and if you want to know more about hypnosis just check out http://www.stow-hypno.co.uk/
Until next time,
Gav
we've all heard of the laws of manifestation, what with having been bombarded with books like 'The Secret' over the last few years.
But I really think there is something to this. However, there is one vital flaw, which I'll explain in a moment below.
When I announced the release date of the next Lullabys single (http://www.thelullabys.com/) I put the intention out there. Suddenly we had a goal to aim for. Then it was a case of putting the wheels in motion, taking action in other words. And just the other day, myself and Brett happened upon the most wonderful studio in which to record. Check it out here: http://www.monkeypuzzlehouse.com/
It's a beautiful place, set in the Suffolk countryside and has outstanding equipment. And we liked the guys too and are confident we can get some great recordings done.
So, recording starts on the first week in February.
I also had time to do some promo work for my hypnotherapy practice. It's really amazing how this works! Everytime I get really focused the law of manifestation seems to happen. I am in tune with the universe. So, there I was, putting out some business cards in the town and got talking to a bloke who said I could use his room FREE for conferences/workshops. He then told me of a woman who had just started up as a complimentary therapist and was looking for a hypnotherapist to join her! The law of attraction in operation again! I had the intent (get more business/clients), took action (took the cards/flyers out) and the universe rewarded me.
But now, the one caveat to this law of attraction. It's no good just thinking more positively and using positive affirmations. Many books over the years have suggested that we should stand in front of the mirror and speak positively to ourselves. This is all well and good but - and this is where the problem lies - if you have an unconcious part of you sabotaging your efforts no amount of positive thinking will overcome it! That's because the unconscious mind is far more powerful than your conscious. The way around it is to make friends with your sabateur!
So, if you consciously want to achieve things (such as lose weight, stop smoking) but can't manage it, no matter how hard you try, there may well be an unconscious sabateur thwarting your efforts.
More on this in the next post. For now, you can keep abreast of developments in The Lullabys by registering as a fan at the website and if you want to know more about hypnosis just check out http://www.stow-hypno.co.uk/
Until next time,
Gav
Thursday, 14 January 2010
How you can slow down time!
Hey!
Is it just me but where has the last week gone?!
In the last blog I said I would write 'tomorrow' but seven days have been and gone. Caught up in the trappings (?) of life, I guess.
I spoke to my mother the other day about how time has flown by and that it's already 3 weeks since Christmas. There is a science behind this 'time speeding up with age thing' but I can't remember what it is or how exactly it works. I could never understand Einsteins theory of relativity, but maybe that's something entirely different.
And with time definitely speeding up, the April 12th release date for the next single from The Lullabys (www.thelullabys.com) is edging ever closer. It may be 3 months away but before we know it, it'll be a glorious day, the Abbey Gardens in Bury will be blooming and everyone will be full of the delights of spring and the summer to come.
I guess we all need to slow down a bit more and enjoy the moment. But how can we when there is so much to do, so many people to see etc?
Maybe that's it; time feels as if it's speeding up when we fill it with so many jobs, cramming in as much as we can. More jobs literally feels like there is not enough time. Emails to read, emails to write, calls to make, things to arrange, household chores, work, business, kids that need constant attention; the list is never ending.
But this is what I found. Not so long back I regularly practised meditation. Even though I was snowed under with 'jobs' and 'busyness' (I was working for social services, running a home-based business and starting my hypnotherapy practice) I committed to doing 20 or so minutes of meditation every day. There was no real intention, other than to simply take time out. I would do this quite early in the morning, just sit with my eyes closed, focusing on my breathing. Even though a part of me protested, saying, 'I can't afford to waste 20 minutes', I persisted. And a curious thing happened. EVEN THOUGH I 'LOST' 20 MINUTES EVERYDAY TIME FELT AS IF IT SLOWED DOWN. I easily managed to get my jobs done throughout the day! Even better - I got the jobs done effortlessly. It was as if the meditation itself put me in the zone, into the flow of life, in tune with the rhythm of the universe.
I think I better get back into it!!! April 12th? That's a lifetime away!!!
Until next time, relatively speaking...
Gav
Is it just me but where has the last week gone?!
In the last blog I said I would write 'tomorrow' but seven days have been and gone. Caught up in the trappings (?) of life, I guess.
I spoke to my mother the other day about how time has flown by and that it's already 3 weeks since Christmas. There is a science behind this 'time speeding up with age thing' but I can't remember what it is or how exactly it works. I could never understand Einsteins theory of relativity, but maybe that's something entirely different.
And with time definitely speeding up, the April 12th release date for the next single from The Lullabys (www.thelullabys.com) is edging ever closer. It may be 3 months away but before we know it, it'll be a glorious day, the Abbey Gardens in Bury will be blooming and everyone will be full of the delights of spring and the summer to come.
I guess we all need to slow down a bit more and enjoy the moment. But how can we when there is so much to do, so many people to see etc?
Maybe that's it; time feels as if it's speeding up when we fill it with so many jobs, cramming in as much as we can. More jobs literally feels like there is not enough time. Emails to read, emails to write, calls to make, things to arrange, household chores, work, business, kids that need constant attention; the list is never ending.
But this is what I found. Not so long back I regularly practised meditation. Even though I was snowed under with 'jobs' and 'busyness' (I was working for social services, running a home-based business and starting my hypnotherapy practice) I committed to doing 20 or so minutes of meditation every day. There was no real intention, other than to simply take time out. I would do this quite early in the morning, just sit with my eyes closed, focusing on my breathing. Even though a part of me protested, saying, 'I can't afford to waste 20 minutes', I persisted. And a curious thing happened. EVEN THOUGH I 'LOST' 20 MINUTES EVERYDAY TIME FELT AS IF IT SLOWED DOWN. I easily managed to get my jobs done throughout the day! Even better - I got the jobs done effortlessly. It was as if the meditation itself put me in the zone, into the flow of life, in tune with the rhythm of the universe.
I think I better get back into it!!! April 12th? That's a lifetime away!!!
Until next time, relatively speaking...
Gav
Thursday, 7 January 2010
The Next Lullabys Single
Hey!
Yesterday I went on about the importance of dates when it comes to achieving goals. And, to put my money where my mouth is I stated that the next single from The Lullabys will be released on Monday 12th April.
That single, as you might have expected will be 'I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE'. It will be accompanied on the EP by 'Let Someone Love You' and two other tracks yet to be decided.
So, now we've got to TAKE ACTION. Set the date then make it happen! We'll be in the studio over the next few weeks recording the songs then designing the EP cover and getting the CD's pressed and sent out to radio producers and DJ's, magazine reviewers and the like.
It's going to be an exciting start to 2010!
More about the single release and goal-setting tomorrow.
And of course, hear some of our songs at www.thelullabys.com
Gav xx
Yesterday I went on about the importance of dates when it comes to achieving goals. And, to put my money where my mouth is I stated that the next single from The Lullabys will be released on Monday 12th April.
That single, as you might have expected will be 'I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU ANYMORE'. It will be accompanied on the EP by 'Let Someone Love You' and two other tracks yet to be decided.
So, now we've got to TAKE ACTION. Set the date then make it happen! We'll be in the studio over the next few weeks recording the songs then designing the EP cover and getting the CD's pressed and sent out to radio producers and DJ's, magazine reviewers and the like.
It's going to be an exciting start to 2010!
More about the single release and goal-setting tomorrow.
And of course, hear some of our songs at www.thelullabys.com
Gav xx
Wednesday, 6 January 2010
Hope and Resolution (part 2)
Hey once more!
It's a chilly wednesday afternoon here in north Suffolk. The whole of the country is snowed in as Britain experiences its worst winter for nearly 30 years. And with many other parts of the world also badly affected by extreme snowfall, whatever happened to the Global Warming zealots?! Suddenly they've all shut up!
But it's not the GW cult I wan't to talk about.
After an excellent business meeting for The Lullabys last night (www.thelullabys.com) I realised there was something missing from my last post. And that is THE IMPORTANCE OF DATES.
Imagine getting on a train and not knowing when you were supposed to arrive? You couldn't plan anything. (Sounds a bit like network rail right now!!)
Seriously though, in order for you to achieve your goals this year you need to get specific.
Take weight loss. How much do you want to lose? It's no good saying, "I want to lose weight." Be specific! By how much do you want to reduce your size? Create a mental image and get specific with the weight you want to be ON A PARTICULAR DATE. Yes, that's right. Create the image, feel how good it feels (in other words, imagine achieving it right now) and make sure you have the date in mind or, even better, written down.
Your unconscious mind works alot better when it has a specific goal to aim for and a date too.
More info about New Years Resolutions and how I help people make their dreams become reality can be found here www.stow-hypno.co.uk
So now I must set a date. MONDAY 12th APRIL will see the release of The Lullabys next single/EP. The song is a live favourite and is...
I will tell you tomorrow!!!! Oh, the suspence!
Lullaby Gav
xx
It's a chilly wednesday afternoon here in north Suffolk. The whole of the country is snowed in as Britain experiences its worst winter for nearly 30 years. And with many other parts of the world also badly affected by extreme snowfall, whatever happened to the Global Warming zealots?! Suddenly they've all shut up!
But it's not the GW cult I wan't to talk about.
After an excellent business meeting for The Lullabys last night (www.thelullabys.com) I realised there was something missing from my last post. And that is THE IMPORTANCE OF DATES.
Imagine getting on a train and not knowing when you were supposed to arrive? You couldn't plan anything. (Sounds a bit like network rail right now!!)
Seriously though, in order for you to achieve your goals this year you need to get specific.
Take weight loss. How much do you want to lose? It's no good saying, "I want to lose weight." Be specific! By how much do you want to reduce your size? Create a mental image and get specific with the weight you want to be ON A PARTICULAR DATE. Yes, that's right. Create the image, feel how good it feels (in other words, imagine achieving it right now) and make sure you have the date in mind or, even better, written down.
Your unconscious mind works alot better when it has a specific goal to aim for and a date too.
More info about New Years Resolutions and how I help people make their dreams become reality can be found here www.stow-hypno.co.uk
So now I must set a date. MONDAY 12th APRIL will see the release of The Lullabys next single/EP. The song is a live favourite and is...
I will tell you tomorrow!!!! Oh, the suspence!
Lullaby Gav
xx
Saturday, 2 January 2010
Resolutions Again!
Hey
Doesn't it come around quickly? It's the start of another year and, as per usual, you might be thinking about changes you would like to make in 2010. 'Out with the old' as they say.
What happened to last years resolutions? Did you achieve your goals or, like most people, did you start out with good intentions, only for your enthusiasm to wane and old habits creep back in? Why would this year be any different if you try the same old methods?
Let's face it, you'll probably try another diet if you want to lose weight, give the patches another go if you want to stop smoking, seek yet more counselling for the trauma you experienced when you were five and find out that nothing changes. Within a few weeks you have put back on any weight you lost, the cigarettes are back up to 20 a day and you are still stressed, depressed, angry or all of these things combined!
Each year I make my own resolutions, personal and business - and I write them down. Research shows that this is vital if you want a better chance of succeeding. Not everything I hope to achieve comes to fruition - and not everything I plan to do actually happens - but it's the intention that counts. Getting focused. Putting the energy or vibe out there. Then taking action! It's no good just thinking about it. You have to actually do something. But this year - DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT IF YOU WANT DIFFERENT RESULTS!!
As a therapist at stow-hypno it never ceases to amaze me how many people try to make changes with the usual methods, only to fail miserably. 95% of diets fail. Waste of time! Stopping smoking with will-power, medication, patches or gum is nearly always temporary, sometimes lasting just a few hours! I won't hark on about this too blatantly but if you are serious about making significant changes this year - in your personal and professional life - that are permanent instead of temporary you can find out more at my hypnotherapy site http://www.stow-hypno.co.uk. I've even got special offers on in January.
With regards to The Lullabys, I feel optimistic of a very exciting year ahead. Our intentions are to record a new album, release a second single, do a mini-tour and get onto the festival circuit. The album will be recorded at the start of the year; we've got no gigs planned until spring-time because we'll be busy in the studio, though there may be the odd one now and then, for which you'll need to keep a look out ;-).
Looking back over the photos, there were some great moments during 2009 and we hope you will continue the journey with us through this year - and beyond! Indeed, we will be asking for your help with various tasks throughout the year. The first is help with the next album cover. We'll tell you more about this in the forthcoming newsletter, due out soon.
More news about The Lullabys can be found at http://www.thelullabys.com
I have also recently set up my own myspace page as I go in search for a publishing deal - yes, this being my biggest goal in 2010. As a song-writer I need to get my songs published. Thankfully I have a good team of people working with me who will hopefully make this happen. Find me on myspace at http://www.myspace.com/gavindavidroberts. Yes, Gavin David. I had to use my middle name 'cos there is another Gav Roberts out there somewhere who beat me to it!
So, this is a time of hope right now. Hope that things can be different this year. Hope that changes can be made. That goals can be realised. Take this wave of optimism and ride with it!
Write down your goals. Take action NOW. Do whatever it takes. And if you can't or seem to be stuck in the doldrums or repeatedly sabotage your own efforts you need to come and see me!
Whatever 2010 holds for us all, we need to learn, grow and share our wisdom.
Until next time...
Gav xx
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